Wedding budget, blah. I know, this can be a stressful part of planning your special day. You want everything to be perfect, but there's that pesky price tag, sometimes way outside the range of what you're aiming for.
Budget frets aside, today on the Wedding Planning Podcast, I'm going to take you through a FUN exercise - identifying what you want to SPLURGE on. This will give you the clarity to put your money where it matters most.
My first words of advice for you ...
YOU DO NOT NEED THE BEST OF EVERYTHING.
Sure, your wedding is one of the most important days of your lives. But before you get sucked down the wedding planning rabbit hole that is Pinterest, beautiful wedding blogs and picture-perfect Instagram feeds,
WE NEED TO TALK.
TO DO: The first thing in identifying your wedding budget splurge items is to write down five things that don’t matter much to you about your wedding day.
For some of us, this could be invitations because they just get thrown away. It could be flowers, because they’re expensive & wilted by the end of the night. It could be cake because you don't really even like dessert.
Everyone will have different things on this list, which is key because every couple is different and completely unique in how they go about planning their wedding!
TO DO: Now, I want you to choose five things that are REALLY important to you.
Maybe you’ve dreamed of a specific designer wedding dress since your first date with your fiance. Or the two of you are total foodies, and want only the best of the best in catering. For many couples, photography and videography fall into this category, because they are the most lasting impressions of your wedding day.
TO DO: Brainstorm with your fiancé FIVE THINGS that matter A LOT to you, and that you are OK spending a little more money on. These are your "wedding budget splurge" items!
THE POINT OF THIS EXERCISE?
I don't think you need to spend a lot of money to have a beautiful & memorable wedding day. I also definitely don’t believe in the cookie cutter, pie chart budget tools that assign the same percentages of spending to every engaged couple.
One of the first & most important steps in creating your wedding budget will be to identify the things that are most important to you, and then to build your budget around them.
I asked you to choose FIVE indispensable things. This doesn’t mean that you should or have to go overboard on all five of them, but as you start to research vendors, look into pricing and get a more solid feel for how things will come together, my hope is that you will naturally allocate your budget according to YOUR priorities. Not your sister's priorities, or your mom, or your future MIL.
No wedding website or planning tool out there knows your top priorities, or your perfect wedding day dreams. When you are first engaged, and looking for as much information as possible, it’s easy to start researching your wedding day, and come out thinking that you have to do things a certain way. This happens without even realizing it!
I’ve heard from people who don’t serve a cake, who don’t send out invitations, who don’t incorporate one single flower in the entire wedding.
I’m going to show up weekly to encourage you that this is perfectly OK, and to reassure you that there is no right or wrong way to plan your wedding day.
Things get sticky and complicated and really overwhelming when you pile up a list of things you think you “should” do - and come to realize months into planning that your budget is busted, you’re exhausted and stressed out & wedding planning isn’t even fun anymore.
If you find yourself feeling this way, staring blankly at a spreadsheet & thinking it’s insane to spend $1,000 on a cake, or $3,000 on a dress - come back to this episode.
TO DO: Come back to this episode when you're stressed & remember to keep your wedding budget splurge list close to heart. Minimize the things that are not important to you.
I also want to encourage you to be open & receptive to ways that you can take your wedding budget splurge items & reimagine them a bit.
In the coming months, we’re going to talk about lots more wedding planning topics that could very well be your wedding budget SPLURGE - flowers, your dress, venue, catering, photography.
I’ll do my best each and every episode to deliver a unique angle & a new perspective on approaching each of these important wedding planning topics!
We’ll explore DIY versions of the classics, workarounds to save time & money, creative resources, and special services that I hope will take some of the overwhelm and expense out of planning your special day.
Thank you again for tuning in!
Any questions about today's show? Be sure to shoot me a note!
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